i can never forget it because it’s just mine reversed.
and it seems just like yesterday that i was dressing up birthday cake made from scratch singing to you with 99 cent candles burning way too quickly. we laughed, you blew them out, you kissed me and we danced around the kitchen, the avett brothers music replacing our concept of time.
your birthday is the involuntary anniversary of why i am so fucked up.
your memory flirts with the nostalgia of a fallacy that you were so good for me. i caught your eye in passing, and every day i wish i would have just kept walking. the rose colored glasses went blurry the day your true intentions faded into view and lucky for me hindsight’s twenty twenty. like a child who accidentally lets go of their balloon my fairy tale i was promised by you disappeared into the perfect shade of dark blue.
i am an open book but your chapter has been irrevocably torn out, permanent in my mind and fresh off the press. just when i begin to eradicate the mess you’ve made you manage to rewrite yourself back in the form of a facebook message, friendly, asking me how my family’s been and if i’m happy. as if you’re act is finally together and you’ve really changed.
but i remember you tossing your burning cross onto me when i was too young to interpret the flame’s effects. my skin never rejuvenated, i’ve never been able to find that girl I search for in my old journals. she is just a face on a milk carton.
but i don’t remember that on your birthday, i remember you telling me how beautiful of a bride i would be when i walked out in that yellow sundress you liked so much.
every year i weep and mourn and pray on your birthday. a perpetual paradox that haunts me like the nightmares that wake me up in the middle of the night drenched in cold sweats. it felt so real but you were so fake, and every year i weep and mourn and pray because i fell for your good Christian boy bit like the naive hopeless romantic i once was.
but today i cried. not yesterday. today for the first time in 6 years i had strength to wait one more day.
my crocodile tears fall on a gentle sleeve where the heart of the one my soul loves catches them all. he is patient, kind, and he feels like home in a way you could never manage to. he picks up my broken pieces and never complains about the cuts they give him, while he bleeds he’d rather i take his bandages for my old wounds that are still seeping. i yell and scream and leave and he lets me go and waits until i run back into his arms cause he’s all i have to be angry to. cause you couldn’t take responsibility for something if it killed you.
i found love where it wasn’t supposed to be a lost it where i least expected. i never thought i would be grateful for the storm that rocked my vision for what I predicted my life would be. jesus sleeping under the ship so near to me. i love the same sky my balloon got lost in.
another year goes by and i watch as the grave of my innocence gets more rusted and weathered by tears that never seem to stop flowing.
but the forecast has changed.
i’ve embodied my deepest fear and broke all limitations. hell knows me by name from the many visits there and back, i walk tall and with a posture that’s been broken and weighed down for years by your shortcomings. you’re no longer an unspeakable sin, my scarlet letter is my most prized possession. like the veil it is torn.
so today at 4 am with an agenda that begins at 7, i fall asleep to the heartbeat of security. he whispers to me,
“i love you. i am glad you’re here.”
and just like that my tears are not for you anymore.
happy birthday. i hope you got what you wished for.